I’ve come to the conclusion that finding a father that is actively involved in their child’s life is rare. Why is that? Why do people think that’s acceptable that the father does not have to participate in raising the children? Because he “works” is not acceptable in my book. I “work” too. We, as the mothers, are working all day long. I truly feel sorry for the children that are not watching both parents raise them together. I understand that sometimes the father is not in the picture anymore or his job demands his time in ways that makes it impossible to be involved. But, for the most part I don’t understand why they wouldn’t want to be involved. I’d love some insight on this topic because I really don’t understand it. My husband works his butt of every day and loves his job. He comes home from work and his “job” is not over, he changes into Dad- mode. He walks in, kisses me and the children and basically asks what he can do to help right away. In my opinion, he does this because he respects me, understands how hard I work on a daily basis to maintain the house, keep the kids happy, and provide a meal for him every night. He loves his children, looks forward to talking to them about their day and playing with them. He gets on the floor to give them “rides” on his back, he plays football, he colors, he has tea party’s… Whatever it is, he is Dad when he is home. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying this to brag about how wonderful of a guy I have. I believe this is the way it should be. I didn’t have these children on my own, WE had them. Which in my mind, means WE raise them. Am I wrong? I see so many women doing everything while the man gets to do whatever he wants when he’s home and she never gets to do anything and that just confuses me.
When I was a child, I remember my dad being a little less active in my life. My mom did everything and my dad worked. I cherished the time I did have with my dad and seem to remember them as “special”. My mom didnt seem to mind this, she never complained, she was beyond an excellent mother and I never felt like we were missing anything by my dad working hard. So I guess, if anyone is in this situation or has any insight on it, I am curious! do you, as the mother, not care not mind that he is not as involved? Do you prefer it this way? Is it how you were raised, so you feel the need to continue it? What’s the deal? 🙂
xoxo